This Is How It Always Is is a character-driven story about a family who’s youngest son starts identifying as a girl around age 5. I found the topic and emotions to be fascinating, but the details about every member of the family were too much for me. I like to get to know characters when reading a book, but I am always more interested in plot than character development. It felt necessary to examine both parents in this story, but it was sometimes too much, especially in regards to the mother’s career.
I loved learning about Claude and his transformation into Poppy. I adored the father, Penn, and his story-telling with all of the kids. Rosie, the mom, kind of drove me crazy. It’s hard to know how I would handle their situation, but I couldn’t deal with the way she was handling it.
This book would be a PERFECT book club book, and I was really wishing I’d read it with other people, so I could talk about it. There is a lot of thought provoking content. It would make for great discussion!
I enjoyed listening to this book, but as much as I loved the content, I just couldn’t rate it more than 3 stars. It just dragged on too long, with too many extraneous details.
Rating: 3 Stars